Everyone’s goal is to remain happy every day. They want to be among those who laugh, smile, say jokes and so on; and so do you. You want a smile on your face every day, Isn’t this true?
Social Media makes you think this is possible. Your Facebook friends, Twitter and Instagram followers all seem to have happy, smiling, joyful and perfect lives.
These are all that they appear. No life can be labeled ‘perfect’.
In reality, life is like a seesaw: you have good days and you have bad days. Some days you want to smile, laugh, and jump around. But some other days you feel gloomy and don’t want to talk to anyone.
Your goal is to have more good days, and a few bad days. And the bad days do not get worse.
Here are 11 ways to make yourself happier to increase those good days. In other words, make yourself happier.
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To be happy every day:
Research has shown that the facial expression you wear influences your mood. If you walk around frowning, you are more likely to be annoyed or unhappy.
It is not easy to wear a smile when you are having a bad day, but even forcing a smile for strangers or your coworkers can actually boost your mood.
You do not have to be beaming and grinning from ear to ear, but wearing a pleasant expression for a long period of time will slowly improve your mood and help you have a happier day.
“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” Eckhart Tolle
“The more you complain, the more annoyed you become.”
You can surely say that you are unhappy if you notice yourself complaining most of the day.
People around you will perceive you as annoying and angry.
If this behavior of your persists then it will become part of your personality. You can win the title of ‘a complaining unhappy person’. I’m sure you don’t want this award, do you??
It’s no use talking with Shane,
As he’ll only complaint,
Dad, there is a fix, said his daughters,
stay away from it is all that matters.
Shane’s daughters’ advice was the perfect solution to this problem.
Spend one day without complaining about anything (and it’s a difficult task).
I tell you what this means:
- You cannot complaint about the terrible driver in the car before yours,
- commiserate with coworkers about the boss’s irrational attitude,
- Get angry with government policies.
- Grouch to your spouse about your idiot coworker or a naive customer.
I don’t mean that you shouldn’t get angry on the senseless driver in the car in front of yours, or you support the illogical decisions of your boss or you don’t care about government policies and so on. I only mean that do not let these experiences take control of your behavior and sanity.
After restricting yourself from complaining, you will feel
- Happy and,
In the last and Final revelation God Almighty said:
Wa-ith taaththana rabbukum la-in shakartum laazeedannakum wala-in kafartum inna AAathabee lashadeedun
And remember! your Lord
Caused to be declared (publicly):
“If ye are grateful, I will
Add more (favours) unto you;
But if ye show ingratitude,
Truly my punishment
Is terrible indeed.”
Gratitude simply means that you appreciate the other person’s efforts and considerations.
Thankful and grateful feelings lower stress, alleviate depression and form a sort of feedback loop.
Try to count the blessings in your life. You will spend hours thinking & writing but you’ll finally give up. it’s an impossible task.
- Your pockets are not filled with destitute, are they? Be grateful for every bite you take as there are millions in this world who spend days and nights with growling stomachs.
- Be grateful for the respect you enjoy as there are millions in this world who receive pennies with disdain.
It’s a universal truth that beauty makes people happy. So, enjoy the beauty around you and in art.
You have some options:
Art Gallery: Go to an art gallery and view your favorite artwork: classic , abstract or modern arts.
If you don’t like a specific genre of art, for example, abstract art, no problem! Watch what you like and makes you happy.
Theatre: It doesn’t matter whether the art is static image or not.
If you’re like me who doesn’t enjoy pictrues but a performance instead, then go there.
- View the online portfolios of graphics designer on behance. There are some brilliant artists there.
- Make your phone’s lock screen a beautiful painting or peaceful photograph.
- Enjoy the arts in whatever way you can, and enjoy the happiness they bring
Cinema: Your third option is go to a cinema. There are some very good movies to watch in the English language as well as the Urdu language.
You can watch movies at home (on any video streaming service). if you prefer.
Which movies to watch:
Hollywood reporter compiled a list of 100 movies you can watch.
Here’s another list of 50 Hollywood movies that need to be in every movie lover’s collection.
To live with a happy body and content soul, feed those little flying beings. You’ll feel satisfied when you look at the birds picking food.
Isn’t it beautiful that the birds may take what you gave them home for their hungry children?
“On your house’s terrice or a gound, Keep anything to eat for the birds; You’ll feel good.”Dr. Saman Siddiqui, Clinical Psychologist, KKT, Karachi, Pakistan
Keep Pet Animals
Birds don’t visit your neighborhood? No problem…Keep a pet bird.
You don’t like birds? Keep a cat or any animal….I have a pet too…It’s an Indian ringneck parrot, Booboo!!
Animals of all sorts are known to have a positive effect on human moods.
Pet animals are your friends when alone. My dad’s friend, Asif, lost his only son few years ago. His and his wife’s friend or ‘son’ now is his persian cat poppa – don’t confuse it with ‘pappa’. I have a few pictures of poppa but I can’t share them here without Mr. Asif’s permission.
Your treatment with your body directly determines your mood.
A healthy body results in happy you
You need to take care of two things to be happy.
- Consume plenty of fruits and vegetables.
- Cut down fats.
- Only food and no exercise will make you fat (a living football) —> Fat people are usually lazy –> Unhappy you.
- Healthy food brings healthy energy, and lack of energy or lack of fuel can make you very irritable.
- Healthy food will bring healthy energy, and lack of energy or a lack of fuel can make you very irritable.
Sleep is also essential if you want to be happy all day.
If you are sleep deprived, you have less energy and are more prone to bouts of frustration, hopelessness, irritation or general misery.
Stop being Perfect
Because humans are not meant to be perfect. Imperfectionaim is always present with humans.
Only God Almighty is perfect………only His acts are perfect. Our acts are full of mistakes.
Go to the toilet…..pull up the toilet lid…..and witness how ‘imperfect’ we are.
It is difficult to be happy when you are surrounded by negativity.
Negativity attracts negative experiences and negative people and eventually negative events. The law of attraction works here. Negative thoughts will ‘attract’ negative events.
How to avoid negativity
Unfortunately, this means that you might have to say goodbye to everything from then TV news, talk shows, TV dramas. In addition:
- Unfollow people on social media who only complain or gossip. When you do this you’ll have a much cleaner wall!
If you don’t like a recommendation just click the three vertical dots and press/tap ‘not interested’.
- Stop reading details of every news update you receive. This also includes emails from websites you subscribed to. If you don’t like, unsubscribe their list.
- If necessary, stop spending time with friends who are only interested in drama.
It requires a few lifestyle and attitude changes and a slightly different mindset. Believe me once the negativity is out from your life you are on the road to happiness.
How to know if you are happy from the inside?
Painting is self-discovery. Every good artist paints what he is.
Think about how this quote by Pollock can discover the real beauty in you.
Are you done…???
I was under the treatment of Dr. Saman Siddiqui at the Khan Kinetic Therapy (KKT) Spine Center.
She asked me to draw a picture, any picture.
I draw one of a girl. She had a heart-shaped face, had long hair, and was not depressed at all.
She asked me to name her.
I named her ‘Sarah‘.
One thing is for sure, I’m NOT unhappy.
You do the same too. Draw anything……….not just a face…anything: beautiful, lovely, frightening or else and see what you come up with.